Useful talk is about traction, gearing low to go the distance.
The real words, the guts of the story, will give the best traction.
Less is more.
Remove the need to convince others, through repetition of point, that only leads to grinding gears. In a gearbox, it is the small gears that get the most traction; less gives more. The same goes for effective traction from communication.
Grinding gears, sand, or a spanner in the works, friction, noise, equals a connection that is not clean and clear. The same goes for communication. Too much information and clutter leads to less traction, less recall, and beign forgotten or misunderstood.
Gears are simply amazing things. If you have an engineering bent at all, you’ll know what I mean.
If you’re not the engineering type, let me share something with you. Neither am I. When I was younger and repairing my own cars, I always had a pile of bolts left over at the end of a repair job. The car would still go, more or less. Skinned knuckles, nuts and bolts that wouldn’t budge had me view metal as very unforgiving.
But I do get the magic of gears. Maybe the idea came from nature. The use of gears, in everything from the plastic cogs in our computer’s mouse, to the massive gears in huge power stations that produce our electricity. Gears run the world.
One of the most clever things about gears is how they shift power, and use torque to do that. So that to me is a great metaphor for communication.
How do we gear it right to get power in our speaking?
And like the most effective gears, the more connection the better the gearing, the less friction, the more power.
Connection, power, reduced friction (tension) all add up to effective communication.
Well how in practical terms do we do that.
Just to push the gear idea a little further, the most common gears are spur gears, the little spurs on a cog is what engages with another cog or gear.
We need to identify our spurs, the high points in our communication.
It is so often our temptation to try and cram everything into a communication piece. The thigh bone connected to the knee bone. No one needs a comprehensive anatomy lesson. They need the guts of the story. Technology today lets people drill down themselves if they need details. You offer that opportunity, but you are focussing on the spurs. The high points that will engage.
We need to realise that we do know what the spurs and the high points are. Although overwhelmed with detail and information, more often than not, we do instinctively know how to navigate it. We just need to build that communications navigation muscle.
The answer to doing this lies in speaking and in conversation. Create an environment where you can wax lyrical, and record it. The informal asides are often the rich gems you need to get your message across. The throw away line, the explanation to a child, a neighbour, a parent.
There are 7 Key Steps Gain Torque from Your Talk.
Be Authentic, use language and ideas you are familiar with and care about.
Practice Speaking From a Blank Page. No notes. Record this.
Make Connections with Daily Life.
Use metaphors from nature.
Be Moved. Inject moments of your experience where you were present to something special that moved you.
Talk Transformation. Make Your speaking be a journey of contrasts.
Embrace Drama and Appeal to all senses; visual, aural, touch, taste and smell.
Great talk equals great talk.
Gear up how you speak and communicate. Treasure and revere the spoken word, give it power, energy, and love. The results will speak for themselves.
What are the ‘both’worlds ?
When ever we say someone has the best of both worlds we would say that with awe, admiration, desire, envy, o some such.
What does it mean? Is it being clever, being lucky, being courageous?
Is it like having a bob each way, having your cake and eating it too.
In my generation, we grew up being told we could NOT have our cake and eat it too.
But having the best of both worlds was getting more than one ‘bargained’for, in Judeo-Christian traditions, one should not ask or expect too much and be humble . Again, look at the scarcity in the word, bargained. It intimates deciding we could only have so much and then got more.
Having the best of both worlds is about abundance and freeing ourselves of limiting what we think we can have.
We unconsciously limit ourselves every day. I gave up dreaming of a beach side house years ago deciding it was too expensive. So if I think of a place to live out of the city, I don’t think about the coast anymore. But I would love to live by the coast. I’ve limited a dream, having arrogantly predicted the future as it isn’t going to happen.
Now I could and now do still dream of having a place by the coast. Maybe it is in a place I’ve never thought of, maybe even a country I’ve never even thought of. Maybe I don’t really need to own it. Maybe someone might give it to me. But one thing is for sure, if I have given up on the dream, it certainly isn’t going to happen.
The best of both worlds can be about the real world what ever we have that mean, and the ideas world. Living our dreams but living our lives, work all in one. The best of both worlds is about giving up that our life, desires, inspiration, work, is either this, or that, but not both.
The limiting of ourselves, saying we can have this and not that is becoming an old 20th century paradigm, in a time of scarcity. That has not served the world. We have not dealt to world poverty, violence, inequity by acting from a place of scarcity. The limits of the western world’s economic system are manmade, and not real. But as it affects most of the globe’s wellbeing through controlling access to money, and therefore food. shelter and our basic needs, it occurs as all powerful, limited and a struggle to master. It also occurs as benefiting a few at the expense of many.
If we have what is called a social consciousness, we bitch about the rich getting richer, and the inequity of the system.
If we feel powerless we bitch about the government taking taxes and controlling our lives, even delving into conspiracy theories.
If we are aspiring to climb the ladder to wealth, we see the world as about hard work and striving, but bitch and moan about how unattainable it is.
Most of us operate from one of the above.
And does it serve us?
I would say no, resoundingly. We end up blaming, not taking any responsibility for our state of being. It is someone else’s fault, it will always be the same, and we are powerless to do anything about it.
Well this is an invented reality, and the irony is; it is an idea of the world that we have made up.
This morning I sat in my kitchen contemplating my day, looking out at my scruffy back yard, with kikuyu overgrowing everything, lawn unkempt, a chaotic mess. But I saw our old lemon tree and it triggered a whole different set of thoughts. This lemon tree is one tough survivor. It has rotted to a stump at least twice, and grown back to a tree, budding and producing beautiful tangy lemons. Its current trunk, straight as an arrow, was a shoot from a rotting stump. 18 months ago a tornado whipped around our house and snapped the lemon tree half way down its trunk. It looked pitiful for a month or two and not for the first time I was sure it would die. But now as summer fades, it is covered in branches, leaves, buds and lemons. It fruits and always has all year round so there is always one or two lemons on it. The lemons have made hot drinks for us when we are sick, wedges for tequila shots, wedges for gin and tonics, zest for icing, salads, salad dressings marinades, a versatile fruit.
So? I have it that this lemon tree, without an uttered thought, a brain, a soul has made the best of all worlds and we have benefited from it. And will continue to do so. And then one day, it will die as all things do, and we will all move on. I like limes too.